Coming home to the security that is already yours
Coming home to the security that is already yours

The Secure Self

Learn how to Actually embody secure attachment

A group healing container designed to help you feel safe in your body, emotions, and relationships. The Secure Self group is a trauma-informed space designed to unlock the doors to authentic self-expression that has been suppressed to due to the lacking safety, connection, belonging, or purpose somewhere along the way. Through working through the 4 part secure attachment framework, members create safety to uncover parts of self that they have abandoned or rejected. They regulate and center themselves, attune to their heart, learn how to relate healthily, in action, and integrate into a more secure sense of self.

An embodied journey from survival and self-protection into safety, connection, belonging, purpose, and wholehearted living.

“As humans, it is our birthright to feel safety, connection, belonging, and purpose. Without it, we continue to maneuver love and relationships in hopes of expressing what we never got to express, and feel what we never got to feel. It is time we gift ourselves the security we innately deserve.”

-RACHEL JACKSON, FOUNDER, MA MFT

Eight Weeks:

What’s included?

  • 12 individuals maximum

  • 8 weekly group calls (90 min)

  • 2 × 30-minute 1:1 sessions

  • 1× 90-minute 1:1 session

  • Private group messaging space

  • Weekly check-ins + resources

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Somatic Inner Child Healing for Secure Attachment

  • Many women seeking somatic or inner child healing are not trying to become a new person — they are trying to stop feeling constantly overwhelmed, anxious, or disconnected from themselves. Many high-achieving women identify with high-functioning anxiety — appearing capable externally while internally feeling pressure, over-responsibility, and difficulty relaxing.

    You may notice:

    • feeling responsible for other people’s emotions

    • overthinking conversations after they happen

    • difficulty saying no without guilt

    • people-pleasing even when you’re exhausted

    • fear of being a burden

    • shutting down or going numb during stress

    • trouble identifying your own needs

    • anxiety in relationships even when nothing is wrong

    • emotional overwhelm followed by withdrawal

    • feeling disconnected from your body or intuition

    These are not personality traits. It’s not “just the way you are.” They are nervous system protection patterns.

    Somatic healing works by helping the body gradually experience safety so authenticity and emotional expression can return without force.

  • We are all adapting, maneuvering, and shifting in hopes to find love, safety, connection, belonging and purpose.

    In early relationships, emotional expression may have led to rejection, conflict, withdrawal, or feeling misunderstood. Over time, the nervous system learns that connection requires minimizing needs, emotions, or authenticity. This can show up in adulthood as people-pleasing, perfectionism, difficulty setting boundaries, or fear of being a burden.

    These patterns are not personality flaws. They are protective responses shaped by the nervous system.

    Common experiences include:

    • overthinking conversations

    • anxiety after expressing feelings

    • emotional shutdown in conflict

    • difficulty receiving support

    • feeling responsible for others’ emotions

    • losing sense of self in relationships

    Somatic healing works by helping the body experience safety again by meeting an emotion with the intensity it was felt in. In this work, we begin allowing emotions and authentic expression to return gradually instead of through force or mindset work.

  • Somatic healing is a body-based approach to emotional healing that focuses on the nervous system rather than only thoughts. Many women who struggle with anxiety, people-pleasing, emotional overwhelm, or feeling disconnected from themselves are not experiencing a mindset problem — they are experiencing a nervous system safety response.

    In this women’s somatic healing group, we work gently with the body to build capacity for emotions, boundaries, self-expression, and authentic connection. Instead of forcing change through willpower, participants learn how to feel safe inside their bodies again.

  • Inner child healing refers to reconnecting with younger emotional parts of ourselves that formed during early experiences of rejection, emotional inconsistency, or feeling unseen. Many adult reactions — people pleasing, fear of conflict, perfectionism, and difficulty expressing needs — are protective responses learned earlier in life.

    In this group, inner child work is approached somatically. Instead of only discussing childhood experiences, participants learn how the body still carries protective reactions and how to gently update those responses through safe relational experiences.

  • People-pleasing and high self-reliance are often adaptive survival responses learned early in life. When emotional needs were not consistently met, many people learn to become hyper-attuned to others while abandoning their own feelings and desires. This, then, becomes a habit that we associate with our personality as a giver. When in fact, it’s more of a coping mechanism. When our inner children end up feeling alone, or responsible for our safety, we tend to become hyper self-reliant which pushes us away from true intimacy, security, and deep freedom in all facets of our lives.

    This group includes guided inner child integration practices that help participants reconnect with younger parts of themselves that still carry fear of rejection, abandonment, or being “too much,” or “not enough.”

    Through supportive relational experiences and nervous system regulation practices, participants begin to:

    • stop over-functioning in relationships

    • express emotions safely

    • receive support without guilt

    • set boundaries without panic

    • feel more at home in their bodies without need for approval

  • This group may be supportive if you:

    • feel responsible for other people’s emotions

    • struggle to receive help

    • overthink relationships

    • feel disconnected from your body

    • experience anxiety in connection

    • fear being a burden

    • suppress anger, sadness, or needs

    • crave deeper emotional safety and authenticity

    • cling to security in money, validation, reassurance, sex, food, or anything external

    • often run from vulnerability

    • desire more freedom in their life and relationships

    • are ready to show up with an unshakable confidence

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PROGRAM OUTLINE

A group for inner child integration, somatic nervous system regulation, healthy relating tools, and safe embodiment practices — done in community. In these 8 weeks, you turn your desire for security into direction from the inside out, not the outside in.

  • Before 9/30, please feel free to schedule your first 30-minute 1:1 session with me!

  • Nothing to Fix

    From Shame → Safety

    Wednesday 9/30: First group call — Welcome, Course Overview and Pillar 1.

    Time: 8–9:30 am CST

    Primary Pillar: Regulation
    Core Need: Safety
    Element: Earth + body intelligence
    Secure Attachment Capacity: Internal safety + the ability to regulate and remain present with yourself

    We will dive deeper into:

    • Centering Ritual: breath, mantra, grounding, and gentle movement

    • Group foundations + agreements

    • Nervous system basics through the lens of the inner child

    • “Nothing to Fix” — establishing the foundation for shame-free healing

    • The Earth Element: grounding, containment, stability, support

    • The core human need of Safety

    • What secure attachment actually means — and what it does not mean

    • Pillar 1: Regulation

    • The difference between regulation and suppression

    • How the body learned to protect you

    • Beginning to recognize: “I am activated, but I am not in danger.”

    • How regulation creates the capacity to stay connected to yourself

    • Closing Movement Practice: grounding + containment

    Secure Attachment Focus

    Can I be with myself when I am uncomfortable?

    This is the beginning of secure attachment: not needing to immediately escape, fix, suppress, perform, or seek external reassurance when something inside you becomes activated.

  • Survival to Security

    From Reactivity → Stability

    Wednesday 10/7: Call 2

    Time:  8-9:30 am CST

    Primary Pillar: Regulation
    Core Need: Safety
    Element: Earth + body intelligence
    Secure Attachment Capacity: Self-regulation + self-trust + staying connected to yourself under stress

    We will dive deeper into:

    • Centering Ritual: dance + breath + mantra + movement

    • Survival: what happens when our core needs aren't consistently met

    • Breathwork practice

    • The body and somatics as our capacity to hold

    • Survive vs. Thrive

    • The role of the first three chakras

    • Open vs. closed energetic patterns

    • What to do with blocked or stagnant energy

    • The looping patterns that keep us organized around survival

    • Externalization vs. internalization

    • Pendulation: learning to move between activation and safety

    • The three insecure attachment strategies:

      • Anxious: “I have to get close to be safe.”

      • Avoidant: “I have to pull away to be safe.”

      • Disorganized/Ping-Pong: “I need connection, but connection doesn't feel safe.”

    • How each pattern attempts to create safety

    • Beginning to recognize your protective strategy without shaming it

    • Building the capacity to return to center

    Secure Attachment Focus

    Can I stay connected to myself when my attachment system is activated?

    The goal isn't to eliminate your attachment responses. It's to develop enough internal stability that you have choice about what you do next.

  • Intro & Invitation Into the Heart

    From Protection → Presence

    Wednesday 10/14: Call 3

    Time: 8-9:30 am CST

    Primary Pillar: Presence
    Core Need: Connection
    Element: Water + heart intelligence
    Secure Attachment Capacity: Emotional attunement + receiving + staying present with your inner experience

    We will dive deeper into:

    • Heart Coherence Ritual: sound + somatic experience + scan (bottom up, subtle body)

    • Breath, sound, vibration, and heart-centered awareness

    • Simple practices for noticing what is happening inside without immediately changing it

    • A critical reframe for responding adequately to emotions

    • Emotion as information rather than evidence that something is wrong

    • The Water Element: receptivity, flow, feeling, connection

    • The core human need of Connection

    • Pillar 2: Presence

    • What happens when we disconnect from ourselves emotionally

    • Increasing your capacity to stay present with your inner children

    • How the ability to respond to yourself becomes the foundation for responding to others

    • Learning the difference between feeling an emotion and becoming the emotion

    Secure Attachment Focus

    Can I stay present with what I feel without abandoning myself?

    Secure attachment requires the ability to feel without becoming overwhelmed, shut down, or immediately reaching for someone else to regulate you.

  • Disconnection to Presence

    From “I Can't Receive” → “I Can Let Life In”

    Wednesday 10/21: Call 4

    Time: 8-9:30 am CST

    ** 1:1 90-Minute Call with Rachel

    Primary Pillar: Presence
    Core Need: Connection
    Element: Water + heart intelligence
    Secure Attachment Capacity: Receiving, emotional openness, vulnerability, and tolerating intimacy

    We will dive deeper into:

    • Heart Coherence Ritual: sound + somatic experience + tapping

    • The body of receiving

    • Why it can be impossible to receive when the nervous system doesn't experience safety

    • The relationship between the lower three chakras and our capacity for openness

    • Why unconditional love can be difficult to receive, even when we deeply desire it

    • “Why doesn't anything ever stay?” — understanding the ricochet effect

    • The Field of Love: the heart's natural movement toward expansion

    • The subtle ways we create closure and then explain it away

    • Protection disguised as discernment

    • Protection disguised as independence

    • Protection disguised as “I just don't need that”

    • The difference between boundaries and walls

    • Responsibility: what changes when we stop waiting for someone else to make us feel safe, wanted, or enough

    • Practicing receiving without immediately preparing for loss

    • Expanding capacity for intimacy

    Secure Attachment Focus

    Can I allow love, support, pleasure, and connection to reach me without immediately bracing for their loss?

    This is a powerful attachment theme because many clients don't struggle only with getting love. They struggle with letting it in.

  • Hello, Relating 101

    From Belonging Through Performance → Belonging Through Authenticity

    Wednesday 10/28:  Call 5

    Time: 8-9:30 am CST

    ** 1:1 90-Minute Call with Rachel

    Primary Pillar: Congruence
    Core Need: Belonging
    Element: Fire + relational intelligence
    Secure Attachment Capacity: Differentiation + mutuality + authentic connection

    We will dive deeper into:

    • Group Relating Tool: Learning to Listen — partner practice

    • What happens when our internal “chakras” aren't communicating

    • The relationship between inner incongruence and relational patterns

    • What do you keep attracting?

    • Fire Element: agency, discernment, expression, desire

    • The core human need of Belonging

    • Pillar 3: Congruence

    • Subconscious relational meaning

    • How childhood adaptations become adult relationship strategies

    • The difference between belonging and fitting in

    • What happens when we abandon ourselves to preserve connection

    • Learning to stay connected while another person has a different experience

    • Long Deep Breathing Experience

    Secure Attachment Focus

    Can I remain myself while staying connected to you?

    This is the heart of differentiation: where do you end and I begin?Me + You rather than: Me instead of You or You instead of Me.

  • Protection to Authentic Connection

    From Performing for Connection → Being Known

    Wednesday 11/4:  Call 6

    Time: 8-9:30 am CST

    ** 1:1 90-Minute Call with Rachel

    Primary Pillar: Congruence
    Core Need: Belonging
    Element: Fire + relational intelligence
    Secure Attachment Capacity: Authenticity + vulnerability + relational repair

    We will dive deeper into:

    • Group Relating Tool: Windows + Walls (The power of trust and confirmation bias) & Capacity Check-in

    • Conscious capacity: how much intimacy can I actually hold?

    • Authenticity cannot fully emerge without inner-child integration

    • Parts Work / IFS: A Calling Home

    • The parts of us that learned to hide, please, control, withdraw, or perform

    • “You Decide” — the ways we show up to save ourselves

    • Core wounding: going 7 levels deep

    • The difference between vulnerability and emotional overexposure

    • Boundaries as a form of secure connection

    • What happens when someone doesn't give us the response we hoped for

    • Learning to tolerate relational discomfort without abandoning ourselves

    • The beginning of relational repair

    Secure Attachment Focus

    Can I let myself be known without making someone else's response determine my worth?

    Secure relating isn't about guaranteeing that people will choose us. It's about developing the capacity to remain ourselves even when we cannot control what someone else does.

  • Everybody Embody, Now.

    From Knowing → Living

    Wednesday 11/11:  Call 7

    Time: 8-9:30 am CST

    Primary Pillar: Integration
    Core Need: Purpose
    Element: Air + spiritual intelligence
    Secure Attachment Capacity: Agency + authentic expression + embodied choice

    We will dive deeper into:

    • Group Embodiment Exercise: Relating from Faith vs. Fear Visualization

    • Air Element: perspective, movement, possibility, expression

    • The core human need of Purpose

    • Pillar 4: Integration

    • Sat Nam

    • Breath + mantra + embodied movement

    • Pineal and pituitary symbolism/awareness within the Kundalini framework

    • The Masculine Container for Feminine Expression

    • What happens when we have insight but don't embody it

    • The difference between knowing who you are and living as who you are

    • Agency as a secure-attachment capacity

    • Taking up space

    • Making choices without outsourcing your authority

    • Allowing your authentic self to become visible

    Secure Attachment Focus

    Can I act from what is true for me, even when I don't know how everyone will respond?

    This is where security becomes agency and choice.

  • Healing to Wholehearted Living

    From Healing Yourself → Living Yourself

    Wednesday 11/18:  Call 7

    Time: 8-9:30 am CST

    Primary Pillar: Integration
    Core Need: Purpose
    Element: Air + spiritual intelligence
    Secure Attachment Capacity: Integration + secure self-leadership + wholehearted participation in life

    We will dive deeper into:

    • Group Embodiment Exercise: Reparent, Rewire & Remember — Inner Child to Adult Self

    • Magic Mantra

    • Integration through Committed Choice

    • Embodiment as a reflection of environment + willingness to be seen

    • Follow Your Joy: the Matriarch of Emotion

    • The ways we were conditioned to escape being human

    • How we learned to leave ourselves through perfectionism, productivity, spirituality, people-pleasing, control, avoidance, or numbing

    • Infiltrating light into all parts

    • Moving from healing as a project to relationship with self as a practice

    • How to recognize when you're leaving yourself

    • How to return to yourself

    • Creating your personal Secure Self Practice

    • Closing Ritual

    • 8-Week continuation and integration

    Secure Attachment Focus

    Can I live from choice rather than protection?

    The secure self isn't a version of you that never gets triggered, feels anxious, or wants to run. It is the part of you that can increasingly stay with yourself and respond vs react:

    I can feel. I can choose. I can connect. I can set boundaries. I can receive. I can repair. I can be seen. I can express. I can trust. I can discern. I can turn toward discomfort. I can come home to myself.

Finally, healing that is not rushed into to-do lists + check-boxes

Finally, a sacred, small group space where you will be seen

Invest in eight weeks that set the foundation for a lifetime of embodiment of security within.

$999 INVESTMENT — SAFETY FROM THE INSIDE OUT

SIX MONTH PAYMENT PLANS AVAILABLE

Who Is This For

The individual that signs up for this container is the one is craving a deeper center-point. They see themselves grasping for external things to bring them more peace and safety inside. As a result, they feel exhausted by themselves in a way — wanting to finally find the magic key. They take responsibility for where they dim their truth to try to be accepted or keep the peace. They sign up for this container as the version of themselves that is committed to embrace themselves, their authenticity, and their power fully: without self-abandoning, placating or shaming their own expression in hopes to meet their inner child’s unmet needs. This person has tried therapy or coaching, but is craving to vulnerably show up alongside other like-minded individuals.

This is for the human being who is ready to learn new ways to attune to their emotions, and the emotions of others. If this is for you, you are at an inflection point in life. You are ready to claim all you are worthy of: in life, love, career, service, and beyond. You want tools to stop cycling the same relational patterns and begin attracting people into their life that can hold their depth — heck with feeling “too much” or “not enough.” They invest, not as the small version of self, but as the one committed to their most fulfilling life.

Step into the version of you who shows up embodied in security from the inside out— no more clinging or running. Welcome to your secure self.

trauma informed secure attachment group | learn to embody healthy relating

feminine and masculine healing | through the inner child

a message from rachel

For so much of my life i didn’t even realize how fast I was running away from myself. I was running away from the suppressed emotions within my beautiful vessel. I was fearful to go within: What would I find? What would I feel? What would fall apart when i turned my outward gaze inward?

It wasn’t till I got really honest about turning inward that I began to truly understand the healing process. After years of learning “theory” for healing modalities, I came face-to-face with a radical truth...

This work is nothing we can be taught. This work has always been an inward process. This work can only happen when we create safety. It was not until then that I began to uncover lost and forgotten aspects of my story. These missing pieces were a huge puzzle piece to my liberation.

I am committed to a continual path where I release my survival strategies of people-pleasing and perfectionism and hold space for the men and women who were also conditioned out of tending to the root of their innate inner child needs. Here we tend to the parts of us who are aching for love, safety, connection, belonging and purpose but subconsciously recreating what we so deeply want to see change.

So, my intention for this container? To harness a space for the purest sense of safety. To hold a container where (finally) all parts of you can be held so that you can remember that you can feel at home, here, within. When the world “shows” us that it is unsafe or too challenging to embrace all parts of us, the cycle of self-abandonment continues. This is the cycle we are quite frankly sick of & we should be.

We are too wildly powerful as humans to deny ourselves of the breadth of magic within ourselves, within relationships and within life. This group if for those that want to feel it all, to create with such passion, to nurture life and relationships (both present and potential) with the entirety of their hearts.

People-pleasing, perfectionism, and insecure attachment in general are simply nervous system strategies. Yet, it may be time we drop these safety mechanisms and embody the inherent birthright to feel safe and secure. Your desire is your direction. Let’s move together.

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If your application feels aligned, I’ll invite you to a 30-minute 1:1 connection call before our first group call.

This call is a space for us both to feel into fit, ask questions, and ensure the container feels supportive, aligned and resourceful for you.

Submitting this interest form does not obligate you to join. If we connect and you decide it’s not the right time, you’re welcome to decline — with no pressure or expectation.

Because these containers are intentionally small and relational, not all applicants will be invited in this initial round.

I’ll be in touch via email within a few days of your submission.

Submit an Initial Interest Application.

  • This is a psychoeducational and somatic support group focused on nervous system awareness and relational healing. It does not replace licensed mental health therapy. Rachel is a trained marriage and family therapist but no longer holds the label of “therapist.” This group has 1:1 coaching and group somatic and inner child coaching.

    This group supports women experiencing anxiety, emotional overwhelm, people-pleasing, and relationship insecurity.

  • No. All practices are guided, trauma-informed and beginner-friendly.

  • The space is open to personal meaning-making, mindfulness, and self-connection, but no specific belief system is required. We will refer to a higher-power at times throughout the course to ask for additional protection in our emotional processing for a clean energetic space for the group. However, all belief systems are welcome!

  • Yes. Many participants join with group anxiety. However, this is a big purpose of the BE WITHIN group overall. As women, we need each other. It is important to move from isolation into connection again, with ourselves and with others. The small size and gradual pacing are designed specifically to support safety and a trauma-informed, close-knit space for us all.

  • Yes. The group specifically supports women learning to recognize and shift people-pleasing patterns, build boundaries, and express needs without guilt.

  • Many participants join because they feel anxious, disconnected from their body, or emotionally shut down. Somatic practices help regulate the nervous system so emotions can be experienced without becoming overwhelming.

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