Attachment styles are patterns the nervous system develops in early relationships to maintain connection and emotional safety. These patterns continue into adulthood and influence how we experience dating, conflict, intimacy, communication, and trust.

They are not personality types — they are adaptive survival responses.

Attachment wounds happen in relationships, so they often heal best in safe relationships.

In a structured group environment, participants can:

• practice boundaries

• communicate needs

• tolerate emotional closeness

• repair misunderstandings

• experience support without losing autonomy

Instead of only talking about relationship patterns, members experience new relational outcomes in real time.

BE WITH is for individuals who genuinely want deeper, healthier relationships but notice they keep repeating the same emotional patterns in connection.

You may find yourself longing for closeness while also feeling overwhelmed by it.

This group may be supportive if you:

• overthink texts, tone, or response time

• feel anxious when someone pulls away or becomes distant

• need reassurance but still don’t feel secure

• worry you are “too much” or not enough in relationships

• lose your sense of self when you care about someone

• feel responsible for keeping harmony

• fear abandonment or rejection

• struggle to trust even when nothing is wrong

• replay conversations after they happen

You may also notice the opposite patterns:

• shutting down during conflict

• needing space but not knowing how to communicate it

• feeling overwhelmed by emotional intensity

• pulling away when relationships become closer

• difficulty expressing vulnerability

• discomfort depending on others

• feeling pressure when someone needs you emotionally

Or you may experience both — wanting connection deeply, but also feeling afraid of it once it begins.

This group is for people who recognize:
“I don’t just want different partners. I want a different way of relating.”

Whether you are single, dating, or in a relationship, the goal is to understand your nervous system responses in connection and gradually build a felt sense of safety, communication, and secure attachment with others and yourself.

Authentic relating is a structured way of communicating that focuses on honest expression, present-moment awareness, and compassionate listening. Instead of analyzing relationships after they happen, participants practice connection in real time with guidance and clear boundaries.

In this co-ed group, authentic relating allows members to safely share emotions, needs, and fears while others learn how to listen without fixing, withdrawing, or becoming overwhelmed. Many attachment wounds formed when emotional experiences were dismissed, misunderstood, or handled without attunement. Here, participants practice offering and receiving steady, respectful attention.

Through this process, people begin to experience something new: their feelings can be expressed without rejection, and another person’s emotions can be present without needing to shut down, rescue, or protect themselves. Over time, this builds secure attachment skills — the nervous system learns that closeness can be safe, boundaries can be honored, and both masculine and feminine expressions can be met with acceptance rather than fear.

Authentic relating does not require sharing anything you are not ready to share. Participation is invitational and paced to support emotional safety. The goal is not forced vulnerability, but gradually increasing comfort with being seen while remaining regulated and connected.

Anxious Attachment

People with anxious attachment often:

• fear abandonment

• overthink texts and conversations

• feel distress when communication changes

• seek reassurance but still feel insecure

• feel responsible for maintaining the relationship

These responses are regulated by the nervous system through fight, flight, freeze, and fawn reactions. When the body perceives emotional threat, the brain automatically activates protective behaviors — even when a relationship is safe.

The goal of this group is not to analyze relationships intellectually, but to help the body experience safe connection directly so secure attachment can develop naturally.

Reminder: You are not labeled by an attachment style. Attachment styles shift based on how the nervous system is perceiving the moment in front of us and the person in front of us through the lens of our past experiences and the innate desires/needs of our inner child and present selves.

Avoidant Attachment

People with avoidant attachment often:

• value independence but struggle with emotional closeness

• withdraw during conflict

• feel overwhelmed by others’ emotional needs

• have difficulty expressing vulnerability

• shut down or become distant when intimacy increases

These responses are regulated by the nervous system through fight, flight, freeze, and fawn reactions. When the body perceives emotional threat, the brain automatically activates protective behaviors — even when a relationship is safe.

The goal of this group is not to analyze relationships intellectually, but to help the body experience safe connection directly so secure attachment can develop naturally.

Reminder: You are not labeled by an attachment style. Attachment styles shift based on how the nervous system is perceiving the moment in front of us and the person in front of us through the lens of our past experiences and the innate desires/needs of our inner child and present selves.

Disorganized (Fearful-Avoidant) Attachment

This pattern includes both approaches and withdrawal:

• wanting closeness but fearing it

• strong emotional reactions

• push-pull relationship dynamics

• fear of rejection and fear of being controlled

• confusion about needs in connection

These responses are regulated by the nervous system through fight, flight, freeze, and fawn reactions. When the body perceives emotional threat, the brain automatically activates protective behaviors — even when a relationship is safe.

The goal of this group is not to analyze relationships intellectually, but to help the body experience safe connection directly so secure attachment can develop naturally.

Reminder: You are not labeled by an attachment style. Attachment styles shift based on how the nervous system is perceiving the moment in front of us and the person in front of us through the lens of our past experiences and the innate desires/needs of our inner child and present selves.

We attract similar environments and familiar patterns. Why? Because our nervous system learned to wire this way in order to maintain a level of love. This “level” of love varies widely from person to person, family to family. However, we will continue to attract these attachment patterns of anxious or avoidant tendencies in order to mirror to us the unprocessed and suppressed emotions that are stored within our nervous system. Not til we look internally (and more importantly, somatically) at these patterns will we give space for a new pattern to appear in our present life as adults.