Custom Relationship Evaluation
THE RELATIONSHIP AUDIT
Couples Intensive & Relationship Audit for Communication, Attachment & Intimacy
If you and your partner feel stuck in the same arguments, emotional distance, or are questioning whether to stay together, this Couples Intensive and Relationship Audit is designed to help you understand what is actually happening beneath the patterns. Using attachment-based relationship work, communication repair tools, and guided conflict conversations, we identify the root dynamics driving disconnection and give you a clear path forward — whether that means rebuilding intimacy, strengthening communication, or making a conscious decision about the future of your relationship.
This is not weekly couples therapy. The Relationship Audit is a focused couples intensive for partners who feel caught in repeating conflict, emotional distance, or attachment patterns that conversations alone have not resolved. Over a concentrated period, we map your relational dynamics, facilitate guided communication, and create a clear plan to either repair the relationship or move forward consciously.
WHAT IS THE RELATIONSHIP AUDIT?
A private 3-day or 6-week couples intensive designed to help partners break painful communication patterns, understand attachment dynamics, and rebuild emotional and physical intimacy. Ideal for couples feeling stuck, disconnected, or uncertain about staying together. Available as a destination retreat or private virtual experience worldwide. The Relationship Audit is designed to transform the traditional couples healing process through deep-dive intensives and a comprehensive assessment of your relationship dynamics. This is a nontraditional approach to guide you back to greater ease, intimacy, authenticity, passion, and love — in your own time, on your own terms.
Who is this for:
Couples who are considering separation or divorce and are seeking out discernment support, conscious uncoupling or a co-parenting plan
Couples who have had a lack of intimacy for months or years and feel resistance to returning back to physical or emotional intimacy
Couples who are seeking premarital counseling with clear tools for maintaining healthy relationship prior to committing to forever
Couples who feel they cannot hear each other and find themselves exhausted, hitting the same road blocks in their communication
Couples who are willing to commit to taking responsibility for their part in the relationship in order to create space for deep appreciation, compassion, and love
Attachment + Intimacy Tranfsormation
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Attachment styles are patterns the nervous system develops in early relationships to maintain connection and emotional safety. These patterns continue into adulthood and influence how we experience dating, conflict, intimacy, communication, and trust.
They are not personality types — they are adaptive survival responses.
Many couples feel they are walking on egg-shells. This is not because the relationship is “toxic” or unhealthy, necessarily. It means that your nervous system’s are operating from an anxious and avoidant loop. One person takes on the role of anxious-fixer-pursuer and the other takes on the role of avoidant-dismissive-withdrawer. This leads to repeating arguments, resentment, a lack of trust, a decline of intimacy, emotional shutdown, and an overall withering of relationship satisfaction and security.
With attachment style rewiring, we retrain your relationship system to find security through listening, witnessing, and embracing each other without shame, blame, or projection.
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Anxious Attachment
People with anxious attachment often:
fear abandonment
overthink texts and conversations
feel distress when communication changes
seek reassurance but still feel insecure
feel responsible for maintaining the relationship
These responses are regulated by the nervous system through fight, flight, freeze, and fawn reactions. When the body perceives emotional threat, the brain automatically activates protective behaviors — even when a relationship is safe.
The goal of this group is not to analyze relationships intellectually, but to help the body experience safe connection directly so secure attachment can develop naturally.
Reminder: You are not labeled by an attachment style. Attachment styles shift based on how the nervous system is perceiving the moment in front of us and the person in front of us through the lens of our past experiences and the innate desires/needs of our inner child and present selves.
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Avoidant Attachment
People with avoidant attachment often:
value independence but struggle with emotional closeness
withdraw during conflict
feel overwhelmed by others’ emotional needs
have difficulty expressing vulnerability
shut down or become distant when intimacy increases
These responses are regulated by the nervous system through fight, flight, freeze, and fawn reactions. When the body perceives emotional threat, the brain automatically activates protective behaviors — even when a relationship is safe.
The goal of this group is not to analyze relationships intellectually, but to help the body experience safe connection directly so secure attachment can develop naturally.
Reminder: You are not labeled by an attachment style. Attachment styles shift based on how the nervous system is perceiving the moment in front of us and the person in front of us through the lens of our past experiences and the innate desires/needs of our inner child and present selves.
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Disorganized (Fearful-Avoidant) Attachment
This pattern includes both approaches and withdrawal:
wanting closeness but fearing it
strong emotional reactions
push-pull relationship dynamics
fear of rejection and fear of being controlled
confusion about needs in connection
These responses are regulated by the nervous system through fight, flight, freeze, and fawn reactions. When the body perceives emotional threat, the brain automatically activates protective behaviors — even when a relationship is safe.
The goal of this group is not to analyze relationships intellectually, but to help the body experience safe connection directly so secure attachment can develop naturally.
Reminder: You are not labeled by an attachment style. Attachment styles shift based on how the nervous system is perceiving the moment in front of us and the person in front of us through the lens of our past experiences and the innate desires/needs of our inner child and present selves.
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We attract similar environments and familiar patterns. Why? Because our nervous system learned to wire this way in order to maintain a level of love. This “level” of love varies widely from person to person, family to family. However, we will continue to attract these attachment patterns of anxious or avoidant tendencies in order to mirror to us the unprocessed and suppressed emotions that are stored within our nervous system. Not til we look internally (and more importantly, somatically) at these patterns will we give space for a new pattern to appear in our present life as adults.
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The Relationship Audit is a discernment counseling alternative at its core. Whether you feel you’re at the stage of breaking up or not, this process is about inner discernment. “Is this relationship serving us and our growth?”
Many couples stay wavering in a state of relationship uncertainty for years… Should we stay together? Are we right for each other? Am I “wasting” time? Are we hurting each other more by remaining in this connection?
Time goes on. Patterns repeat. Wounds continue to be re-ingrained. Pain continues. Fights become a record on repeat. And you feel like you have gotten no where.
Couples stay together because they are holding onto the “what if’s.” Meanwhile, they may be staying in a relationship that is no longing loving for both partners (or your children if you have them). Thus, within the relationship audit, a core goal is to provide you a space where clarity drops in. Within my full relationship write up, I will give you honest suggestions about the longevity of your relationship. If you stay together, I will name what are necessary steps to take to transform the foundation of your connection. If you want to get honest about potential separation or divorce, I will offer a clear step-by-step process so that you can uncouple consciously, versus perpetuating patterns of resentment, conflict, and distrust.
You are not alone. You don’t have to remain stuck in your cycles. I would be honored to hold space for you and facilitate as a meditator, showing you that your relationship can feel different, no matter what decision you make about your next path forward.
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You keep having the same argument and never resolve it
One partner pursues while the other shuts down or withdraws
Conversations escalate quickly into defensiveness or criticism
You feel more like roommates than romantic partners
Physical intimacy has faded or become tense
You are considering separation but don’t want to make the wrong decision
You’ve tried talking, reading books, or even therapy and nothing is changing
You feel stuck in the same conflicts
You are high-functioning who may feel your problems “aren’t that bad” but still feel disconnected
You are premarital but want clarity that this is the “right” relationship before moving forward
You are in a partnership where one partner wants to work on the relationship and the other is unsure
The Three Relationship Audit Tiers
Before you give up, before you jump in, invest in your love and get your custom roadmap forward from a trained therapist. Rachel gets to the root of your patterns, inviting you into seeing each other with more clarity and opening up space for more love. Have you been wanting an approach that is both compassionate and no BS?
why the relationship audit?
Your relationship needs you. It needs you to get curious and open-minded about the root of your patterns. Your luxury, redefined “couples therapy” experience is here. Your custom road map is waiting for you.
are you ready?
The Relationship Audit Private Couples 3 Day Retreat
The 3-Day Relationship Audit Fast Track isn't just another couples retreat or couples intensive — it's a deep, transformative immersion designed for partners ready to cut through the noise and reawaken their intimacy in the magic of nature in at your destination retreat. Couples will leave with different patterns than they entered with, along with a feeling of rejuvenation and with a full Relationship Audit Report on its way to your inbox. Your Relationship Audit gives you a blueprint of your love, your growth edges, an attachment style evaluation, and the tools to unlock your deepest potential. This isn’t therapy as usual — it’s the fast track to passion, clarity, and a future you both crave.
If you are ready to ditch your concerns with the traditional couples counseling weekly 55-minute format and know for certain that you will receive therapy trained feedback, direct tools, unbiased and equal support from your coach, and a custom 50+ page report.
The Relationship Audit is for you.
APPLY NOW.
Your Questions, Answered
Want to start with yourself first?
The thing about relationships is that is requires two individuals. You come in with your own patterning — your own nervous system. Sometimes, relationship patterns change best when you have an awareness, an understanding, and a capacity to be within your own body, patterning, and fears before being able to navigate them within a couple’s container. Secure attachment starts with you first.
My hope for your relationship is that you find the clarity to communicate with deeper understanding, love with greater presence, and truly see — and be seen by — the person across from you, No matter where your path will lead you.
-Rachel Jackson
Meet your guide
Rachel Jackson
I am a human being just like you.
I meet you with heart-to-heart with real authenticity radical and honesty. It is my gift and my goal to make all those I come in contact with feel seen, heard, accepted and at peace as we hold their pain and patterns, together.
I take my masters degree in marriage and family therapy and use it as a guiding lens to be direct with you about the gaps I see within your words, subconscious thoughts, and actions — your past, your present, and your desired future.
My education provides me credible knowledge. Yet, my heart provides you safety, trust, and comfort — transforming the traditional experience of “therapy” into an approach unlike any other. At Guide to Be, we release the labels. It is here that we remember that healing doesn’t have to be so hard. I am your mirror. You come with your unmasked truth.
Frequently Asked Questions
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There are 3 Tiers to engage in the The Relationship Audit Program:
1. CORE
Base Level Tier couple’s do the individual intake sessions and 2 intensives for their evaluation. Then, they receive a full comprehensive audit. They can inquire about additional sessions post-audit.
2. VIP
Middle Level Tier couple’s do the individual intake sessions and 2 intensives for their evaluation with 2 additional post-audit integration intensives with Rachel on weeks 6 and 8. This Tier includes free messaging during the 8 weeks and free access to the Realign your Relationship Program.
3. Exclusive Deep-Dive
Top Level Tier couple’s do the individual intake sessions and 2 intensives for their evaluation. Additionally, they have full access to Rachel for 6 months via messaging. They will engage in 4 deep dive, integration sessions on weeks 6, 8, 10, and 12 to apply and breakthrough patterns for good.
All sessions get one 55-Minute post-audit session to review the report.
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Intensive times are offered M-Thursday between 7am-12pm. On an as needed basis, Sunday availability can be offered. If you enter into the relationship audit edition, you must agree and commit to blocking of time for 2 intensives (2.5 hours each) on your calendars on the same day of the week - between weeks 2-4 of the program.
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Based on your audit Tier, you may get post-audit ntegration sessions (2 for the VIP Tier and 4 integration sessions for the Exclusive Deep-Dive Tier).
For the Deep-Dive Tier, you get lifetime access to discounts with Rachel and 6 months total of messaging access with Rachel.
All couples are invited to an integration group for continued support, as well.
I recommend continued 3-6 month containers for couple’s based on their need. Couples will be accepted upon fit.
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There are payment plan options available to clients! I run promotions on this program sparingly. Right now, at the beginning of 2025, I am offering $250 off for all applicants. Apply today!
Additionally, each year I offer a few scholarships. Send in your application to be considered.
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Rachel Jackson is a trained couples therapist with her masters degree in marriage and family therapy. She left traditional therapy and now works as a coach. This is not couples therapy. This is a relationship intensive. It can be your version of discernment coaching, a couples retreat, marriage consulting, or premarital counseling; however, this is not therapy. It is a container where:
You show me your patterns,
I understand each individuals background and core wounding — building safety with each of you,
I facilitate you having a new experience of relating to each other,
I write up a comprehensive report on your relationship so that you know clearly what a trained relationship specialist sees as the core patterning and what steps to take to transform them.
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While this is common for one partner to be more invested or think that a couples intensive is the best next step and one to be more apprehensive, it is critical that both partners are agreed that they will put 100% into this process for it to be worth your time. Please consider this after our initial consultation. Before the consultation, all couples tend to have some imbalance in their desire to do this work. After chatting with me, I ask that you both give verbal commitment to enter this process with an open mind and heart, willing to take responsibility and willing to try something new.
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i do! This. is one of the biggest challenges for couples doing traditional therapy… the therapist must be licensed in both states that the individuals live. In this work, I suggest that our intensives can be conducted when you are in the same room for you to get the most out of the felt experience. Even better, engage in this program in a 3-day retreat in a destination location to rewire your patterns on a deeper level. But nonetheless, you can absolutely be long-distance to work with me in the Relationship Audit.
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you can work through this process as a 6+ week virtual program or a 3-day in person destination retreat. Integration sessions and messaging access continues after the scheduled intensives and retreat dates.